Family forgot my birthday reddit A few weeks ago, I bought little snacks from the local store and clothes in anticipation of my mother's birthday. Please give me your opinion I’m new to I just find it upsetting because my family has welcomed my husband in with open arms and now he’s no doubt a part of my family and they treat him well. My birthday was in the poor time of the month. I literally had 4 birthday cards that year, 2 from my sister and her kids, and the others from my friends. I dunno if you remember but today's my birthday and I'm a little hurt from the lack of a birthday wish. Please view our voting guide here, and remember to use only one judgement in your comment. I’m the opposite, I always remember and still wish him a happy birthday to this day, and it’s been 2 years. I've told him awhile back what day it was. My mom told me she couldn't Because she didn't have the money and she had to work the weekend I was going out. If I want to do something for it, I’ve always asked my family to go to dinner together. I have a special birthday calendar and I remind my husband often of birthdays of daughter in laws, grandchildren etc. I’ve always thought people blew birthdays way out of proportion. I don’t mind most of my friends and family not contacting us but I’m hurt disappointed and angry that no immediate family called to wish my son a happy birthday. Never in my wildest dreams did I think I would be that spouse. I’ve been really sad for the last couple weeks leading up to my birthday. it hurts! Your feelings are valid. Haven't forgotten it since. today was my husbands birthday and I had ample opportunity to wish him a happy birthday and totally forgot. It’s now been 2 weeks since my birthday and I haven’t received a single card or gift from my family or spouse of 15 years. I came home for the holidays and I gave them to her in addition to a small cake I got fresh from the local bakery the day before I flew out. I can remember the birthdays of my parents (though I never trust myself about my dad's exact date for some reason), my siblings, my boyfriend, and my three closest friends from childhood. She profusely apologized and felt terrible. This is not the first time. But he didn’t forget it. For what it's worth, this is the norm for my Leap Year birthday, and I can remember on my 16th, when I actually DID have a birthday that my parents forgot, I was crushed. Dudes love flowers. I spent mine just playing video games by myself and was fine with it. I make effort with my parents and siblings but this happens almost every year. The problem is it is such a high expectation that it 2024-10-01 19:54:23 Forgetting birthdays, even your parents should be normal. My older sister’s birthday was last month and no one forgot hers. Hey friend. My in-laws forgot about my wife's birthday and they are her parents. This is partly because my mom (58F) has forgotten my birthday almost every year for as long as I can remember. This is the second year in a row now where I’ve experimented to see who truly remembers or cares by not having my birthday posted on any of my social media accounts. My birthday is this week too and it is always shared, last year it fell on my cousin’s wedding shower. My work they bought individual lunches for each department so each department go to chose what they wanted to order. My last birthday, most of my family and friends, even the ones who saw me on my birthday, forgot about it. My birthday was on Saturday and while my family members had no issues remembering to wish me happy birthday, only a select few of my friends did. so to prevent this kind of thing from happening, i always talk about my birthday leading up to it. I honestly prefer them to most holidays and will go all out for people on theirs. Last year she forgot my birthday and I decided to not make a big deal out of it and forgive her. I'm one of (count 'em) nine kids and none of my siblings wish me happy birthday. Also had plans to go to dinner with my mother. So I started making my own birthday fun and fuss. It’s an ego trip. I’m not a birthday person, and my wife is extremely busy, during the time my birthday is. The time I'm writing this, 11. I forget my own birthdays. They are my uncle's children and they are like the golden children of the family everyone like my grandma prefers them over me. I have managed to remember my wife and kids every year, but everyone else is spotty. I don't expect my friends to remember my birthday because honestly I can't remember theirs either. Her forgetting my birthday is We've been in a long distance relationship for almost 3 years now. plus two updates. I brought up the birthday a couple of times, and we had a long conversation as usual. But they did not expect that my disappearance would lead to the discovery of many secrets and change everything. Ik it sounds silly but i’m a bit hurt that no one remembered today was my birthday. Me: What? Dad: YOU FORGOT MY BIRTHDAY! Me: I thought it was today? It's on my calendar. I have a hard Boo who my boyfriend forgot my birthday, there are people dying all over the world and im sad about this of all things. I feel ya - my entire family forgot my 16th birthday even though we'd celebrated my sister's 4 days before. I told my mom and she started telling at me, calling me egocentric and saying that we (her The reason I say kinda is because i still wished her on the day of her birthday but i did it a bit late, Im in a different country rn, 8 hours ahead, she texts me calling me stupid in my language, Then I call her and she sounds like shes crying, my brother already wished her happy birthday and she was hinting to it until i wished her, Im crying so much rn i just got off the phone with her i Dad: You forgot my birthday. But it’s becoming pretty clear they want nothing to do with me. I apologized and told her I feel really bad, she laughed it off and said it’s ok, “you owe me big next time you see me. Funny, I turned 41 this year and didn’t hear from anyone but my Mom and my closest cousin. She forgot my birthday this year and the day after I text her asking if she was okay. Every year I tell myself to not get upset and play the poor me's but If your family and friends forget your birthday, it's important to celebrate alone, remind them, reciprocate the same energy, show concern, and embrace your emotions. I know it hurts. It took him half the day to acknowledge it was my birthday. I'm 26, and my sister was my first bully, and I still love her so, so much - I feel your pain. But still. My previous girlfriend cheated on me and also forgot my birthday TWICE. I'm glad my boyfriend remembered, but we're in a long distance relationship, so he can't physically be here. It wasn't an 'I was so swamped I didn't call or even send a text'. But man I'd love to see some extra affirmations of that on my birthday. they only remembered days later, and my family is telling me to forgive them and not to be so immature about it. In his family, birthdays weren't really considered all that important. My mind was elsewhere. I told him nada. I (20f) just had my birthday today yeah me. Me: I'm sorry, if it's any consolation, i have a hard time remembering dates. On my birthday, I get email and a card and maybe a phone call from my father. Whoop dee doo. I try really hard to make everyone I'm close to have a really good birthday I guess my logic is so they feel wanted and appreciated and not how I felt as a kid. I felt super bad, especially because if she never told me I would’ve not realized til much later. Some of us just On my birthday that just passed- I would’ve thought my boyfriend forgot my birthday by the way he was treating me. They treat me more like family than my own family ever has. I used every ounce of my self control to hide it. I call him on his. Ever since I stopped using facebook, the number of people remembering my birthday dropped down to just very close family and friends (actually, this is how things originally were, pre-facebook). I will actually deactivate FB around my birthday so that I don't get a bunch of meaningless "happy birthday" messages lol. I mean I forgot my own birthday this year. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I have ignored my family completely including their apologies after they forgot my daughters first birthday and some people might think that I am over reacting which Tldr in laws family forgot my birthday twice and my fiancee thinks I'm petty for not wanting to care about theirs anymore Archived post. Since I was the only one in my department, I kept demanding that I get my Reddit iOS Reddit Android Reddit Premium About Reddit Advertise Blog Careers Press. i Yesterday was my birthday and my girlfriend (7months) didn’t say anything to me, just like another ordinary day for her. My mom told me yesterday evening that she and my other siblings forgot which day it was and thus forgot that my birthday was tomorrow, today, so she didn't get me anything. My best friend got me a book i really wanted and she was the only one i know that remembered. the calendar reminds me of more distant family members as well as reminds me of what My mom forgot my birthday before. My birthday was a couple days ago, and no one in my immediate family remembered. Everyone gave me my cards a week ago because it was my grandads birthday and they just gave me mine at the same time. She was fine and asked why and I told her she missed my birthday and I was worried something bad happened to her. I don't expect gifts or a celebration or a big deal to be made about it, I'm not into all that. So, i've been in the family for a while know. ok so in September, it was my 18th birthday. Sometimes I even went. About a month later I am talking to my grandmother and tell her that it hurt she never called me. It's annoying because my closest sister's birthday is four days before mine. My birthday was recently, I turned 26 and I'm more connected on WhatsApp than any other social network, especially Facebook, I haven't been active there for a long time. Everyone forgot my birthday. His family doesn’t acknowledge my birthday. And we would do something as soon as we had the time. The past two weeks I've been bringing up oh my family is coming up to visit for my birthday soon, I got a coupon for my birthday coming up yada yada yada. Not a single family member even said hi to me today. My birthday (age 22) very reccently passed and I can count on 1 hand how many of my family members and friends remembered (I have 9 siblings). I have some close friends, they know the date of my birthday, my family also knows, naturally, and when the day in question came, I didn't make any fuss, I lived like a normal day. I did not expect anything in return from them but wishing only. And now I am debating what I will do for his mothers birthday She was being snappy the next day and said her birthday was the day before. My birthday was 11 days ago and absolute silence from my family. When I (36M) was a kid my parents never celebrated my birthday the only reason I even knew what day my birthday was, was because of family members wishing me happy birthday. I explained that I genuinely forgot, apologized, and said I’ll take her to dinner whenever she’s free. My family was dirt poor so I got an off brand Barbie from a cheap store to give as a gift. The friend she’s there for right now, didn’t believe her while I disrupted my family vacation to be there for her. And even after seeing my birthday post on social media I barely got any replies. " She just called to cancel 10 minutes ago, because she hates driving at night in the winter. my advice would honestly be to give him a little time, see if he does make it up to you - if he’s working a lot he might need more than a couple days to plan something or buy a gift. Even my mom forgot and only remembered bc she saw my bf arriving with a birthday gift. (I never ask for anything I can’t return for him. I am also the only one who remembers my moms birthday. My advice would keep being the bigger person; tell’em happy birthday anyway. 😅 🏽 I know it sounds crazy but it eliminates the Luckily my son didn’t seem to notice no one other than mom and dad wished him well. All of my close friends and family members have gotten a well thought out gift and a little message on their special day reminding them just how much of a positive effect they’ve had on my life. He will feel really bad but will make it up to you if he's worth dating. This year she forgot my birthday again, which makes me feel like I am not that important to her. Only my little sister texted me after work finished, which I was grateful for. Nobody mentioned anything to me on my birthday even though they always have done for every other birthday. Then I went to college and found no one acknowledged my birthday, because I hadn't. My twin was not amused. my birthday was on the 22nd and my sister, and brother forgot, and this isn’t the first time either. This year, my oldest brother managed to wish me happy birthday on the actual day of my birthday in what must be over a decade. It's ok to be hurt. If my family were the one who dont usually celebrate birthday, I would prolly not as sad as much, but they celebrate everyone's birthday, except me. My birthday was last week, and I work in a small dept of 10 people who should know my birthday. My sister died this Monday. But last week was so stressful that I forgot about it earlier in the week. Maybe a few days out of town, a fancy meal you make for only yourself, take yourself out for a fancy meal, visit a new museum every year, and/or a special place out in the country you find that you can take yourself like a hilltop or meadow or river bank. I know this is going to sound petty, but everyone in my family forgot my birthday. My little cousin was dying of cancer,17 years old, it was really sudden, they didn't even know he had cancer until he was on his death bed. I've had the same thing happen to me on multiple occasions, I can't offer a quote to remedy the situation but just know that birthdays aren't the be all or end all of life. Her birthday was on weekday, a quite busy work day for me. Sometimes I forget if I'm 20 or Today is my birthday. Maybe I’m over thinking and they didn’t forgot they just don’t feel the need to bring it up but my family always makes a big deal about it before it’s even my birthday and my mom always asks what I will want for dinner. They didn’t. He has a girlfriend who remembers his, and I think he thinks that's a novel I forgot my husband's birthday last year. My friends always suck in the birthday department; last year I had to plan my own party, I plan all the birthday parties. Today’s my birthday. My parents called & congratulated me and all my friends texted me and I got to hang out with some of Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. They didn't get mad at me for mentioning it. And I thought I didn't care, but then my mom kept asking who called to congratulate me so I lied and listed off a bunch of people. Other than that, it’s been radio silence and it’s 8PM now. I wish this didnt bother me as much as it does, but my birthday was on 12/20, 5 days before Christmas, and my family forgot it. it’s a surprise. I do the same, it’s a month long of celebration. So did my dad (a few times). Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. My group of friends forgot it too, and didn't realize it until I posted something on Instagram about it. I (32F) am big on birthdays. I plan to leave home after graduation, change my name, and start a life where I am truly visible. he had to remind me it was my birthday yesterday, and everyone I knew forgot about it. On my birthday In the mailbox I'd find 7 Maybe 8 cards with MONEY in them. I forgot my own birthday once. I’ve forgotten one my closest friend’s birthdays and I’ve know her for over 30 years. I chose takeout and they put off placing the order for hours. But today I get nothing. But his birthday he scheduled a week or two off every year and traveled to a foreign destination. One of my coworkers even mentioned at that time how her dad’s birthday is the same day as mine. Everyone forgot my birthday . I don't know when any of my aunts' or uncles' or cousins' birthdays are. this past christmas, the whole family got christmas pajamas, except for me, who was allowed to keep the too-small duplicate set my sister got for her boyfriend. Besides, you can get cake anytime. Have a fun conversation about anything that is on your mind. Now, in my comment, there is some truth in it, maybe more than some. I know this post is older, but UGH, same. They’re the ones buying all the presents for family members. My (31f) birthday was yesterday, I've been with my husband (31m) for 11 years and every year he forgets my birthday. Getting angry at you for ruining a spa day is NOT a normal reaction. I don’t care about his family. This is an excellent opportunity to create a personal birthday tradition that NO ONE can take away from you. I'll be 35. They did on other years, no idea what happened. But then he told me something happened the night before and he didn’t wanna tell me on my birthday. Now my cousin came to visit which is all great but she left before my birthday but she still wished me My gf and I have been together for more than a year. it's fucked up the way older sisters can get away with gutting you and treating you like shit at every opportunity, for the crime of being Last year, the day before my 18th birthday I reminded my mom that I was going to a concert with my fiancé and his sister. Like my ex didn’t celebrate his birthday and would always forget mine because birthdays weren’t important in his family. But we don’t get along at all and I’m always miserable when she’s here. We love each other a lot and I would say that our relationship is very healthy. It happens. When my grandparents came over my grandma walked up to me gave me a hug and said happy birthday irish! Everyone in my family had this blank stare on their face and my dad looked and my mom and said O my gosh! We forgot his Yesterday was my 23rd Birthday, and it was wonderful. my girlfriend, my family and all my friends, none of them remembered. What's a good excuse to tell him that would make this any easier or any better? Yeah, they ain't one. And that hurts especially your parents. Then by 7pm, my mother said it was too late to order and she was cooking dinner. I never got my own parties since we were poor and my parents didn’t really care for my birthday. I usually don’t do anything crazy or ask for anything special. Yes he did get me a card for my birthday, but rarely gifts,let alone a dinner out. I personally empathize with your boyfriend, but it is understandable if you do not. He actively chose to not make it a special day. HAPPY BIRTHDAY!! Last year my (now ex) boyfriend forgot about my birthday and I remember that I felt like shit. She even said it to me. This is having a negative impact on me mentally. again. I like texting my family exactly at Midnight just to mess with them. I feel you. I was disappointed but ultimately accepted it. My really abusive ex was horrible about holidays. You are the only you that will ever exist. It's not because I don't care about them. Dad: No, it was yesterday. what i want to do, if i want something. She says she loves me but it hurt. I say happy birthday every year and she doesn't. I live at home with my parents and sisters, and we are relatively close. My birthday was about two weeks ago. I’d been mentioning doing something for my birthday for a few months now. I just wanted a text, not even a call, from my family wishing me a happy birthday. My birthday is tomorrow. The rest of my friends have their birthdays written down on my calendar. Sometimes friends forget my birthday, which is fine, but it’s really crappy for your parents and immediately family to forget every single year. His response sucked ass. The girl whom I gave it to made fun of me for giving cheap junk, and I ended up never getting invited again to other girls their birthday parties. No big deal, I guess as I get older, birthdays dont matter as much anymore. I feel very sad because none of my family members wished me and of course they didnt celebrate it either. She always nearly kills me at least once every time she stays with us because she never bothers to remember my allergies. I so agree with this. Not even my partner. I understand if she forgot once, but two times makes me wonder if she even cares I never expect people to remember my birthday because i’m not exactly family so it’s not a big deal. After a few disappointing birthdays, I realized that if I want my day to be celebrated, I have to be the one setting up plans. I try to get gifts for my immediate family and my girlfriend but I don’t do anything for friends and they don’t do anything for me. As a result, I forgot my husband's (when we were still dating) and he was very upset. Really, the only person who’s even implied remembering my birthday is my grandma who flies to my house every year for my birthday. But my mom, sister, dad, any extended family and friends I have Nobody sent a card or called or even sent a text to say happy birthday. So it was my birthday yesterday, and literally none of my family or my girlfriend wished me happy birthday. This is Reddit's very own solution-hub. I've forgotten a few friends birthdays too (terrible with dates). every single time they’ve forgotten, it has obviously hurt very badly but i just tried to be nice and oh don’t worry! about it. I always try to remember everyone else’s and make sure to give them well wishes or presents. I'm sorry they forgot! My friends all forgot my 18th birthday, not a single comment from them at school. New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast. It caused me to become obsessive with remembering birthdays. They forgot his birthday, they forgot his 18th birthday. But hey that's emotional talk from a limited perspective, the full picture paints that i care about them and they do care about me. but you can’t plan for it. I forgot about it earlier in the week due to all that stress. Me: Why didn't you say something?! Dad: I don't think i should have to remind my family when my birthday is. My This subreddit was created to combat the growing number of hacked Genshin accounts by offering ways to better account security, help with the recovery process and act as a place to talk with fellow players who had their accounts hacked. My director has stated "birthdays are a BIG deal here!" On my birthday, they sent me a photo of them on a horse (for me to compliment their work-sponsored vacation) and totally forgot my birthday. We were in a long distance relationship and he came to visit me for a few days because of my birthday, and still forgot it. r/relationships A chip A close button. So on my birthday I'd make maybe 200 dollars from the neighbors. HOWEVER. So I can and told him I’m having a really rough time because tomorrow is my birthday and I vented about how I just got into an argument with my family. I forgot my dad’s birthday once after 25 years of remembering. I’m giving you the biggest hug. ” I have a google calendar just for birthdays. My kids and husband forgot my birthday. They actually celebrated my moms birthday on my birthday. everyday the clock can match up with the date of his or my biethday. I lost my father 6 months back and did enough after to support my family all around, even i delayed my marriage due to this, yesterday was my birthday and no one from my family remembered it. I called my mom for a weekly chat and she let me know I forgot her birthday about 5 days prior. Next day I ran into one of his friends who asked me about my special birthday and how it was. Just. ” So way back when it was the day before my birthday and nobody had mentioned anything about it. Nothing happened, she was just really busy at work and forgot what day it was. All ya can really do is casually mention it if it does up in conversation, and if you want them to feel guilty, express your feelings, or just be passive with your sadness. I only say this so you know you aren't alone. But the neighbors whom my parents were friend with they remembered. I spent it being with my friends having a great time. I don't mind if my friends forget, but the last 3 years my sister has forgotten. It's the only way they forgot his birthday. Hey guys, I can't believe it, but I'm actually bummed that my GF didn't remember my birthday, or at least didn't say Happy Birthday to me. I'm definitely the AH for this, but I basically forgot my mom's birthday. Only one friend, who I’ve had since 4th grade, texted me to wish me happy birthday. Sorry. Edit: The general consensus seems to be that since I'm over 21 I can no longer expect my family to automatically assume that I want my birthday celebrated. I thought this was absurd at first, especially since my brother and cousins all get parties on their birthdays without having to ask for them, but the more I thought about it I realized that The friendlier part of Reddit. So the day before my birthday, my friend called me to vent about his boyfriend like he always does. While I know I’m not anyone special, I just wish for the people that I care about to remember. For some reason when I woke up yesterday morning I had this gut feeling like my dad would forget my And tbh it got me thinking maybe it's time for wifing someone that cares about me and building a family that might care about me a bit more. I M20 , im currently sitting down at the dinner le table after a long day of studying and work. I never thought I could be so thoughtless as to forget my birthday, yet here we are. What's worse and makes me feel so pathetic about myself was that I hinted at them but none of them cared enough to take it seriously. Called her 3 hours ago to confirm, she said "of course. I tell them that it's my birthday. If you feel they must know then just remind them. Near the end of our relationship, I woke up on my birthday and went into the kitchen to find out that he had done *nothing* - no gift, no card, not even a dinner reservation. I've seen how confusing it was for her, but don't worry too much,it will 12. On the upside, she’ll never be able to give you grief about forgetting anything again. We even discussed it recently, just about 2 months ago when all of us were out to lunch. There's been times where I've had to go to work (retail) on my birthday and had customers shout at me or try to rob me. My family did too one year. My family always forgets my birthday, but somehow always remembers my sister's birthday. My brother didn't call me, my sister didn't wish me happy birthday, my dad didn't bother to call me either and my mother straight up forgot. I do not live with my family anymore. It was my 40th. You matter more than you know. Hell, bring the man a flower and tell him you fucked up. It didn’t bother me a bit, honestly! Maybe your boyfriend is really like that, and he genuinely doesn’t mind. Just have a small gathering with friends is Doesn't bother me at all. “After 18 years of being overshadowed by my golden child brother, my family forgot my birthday, like they do every year. It is not a big birthday I know but no one acknowledged it at all. He had assumed I was out with girlfriends partying. So when it was my birthday, I received a simple "Happy BirthDay" on my Facebook wall, and a text asking if he could ditch my birthday dinner to hang out with his friends. No one wished me, I also did not told them then. I don't know what to feel. I only remembered when my stepfather wished me a happy birthday, and I've known me for 21 years. But I can't help feeling Sad about this. but it happened. But honestly I can’t believe he forgot my birthday entirely and didn’t even say happy birthday. It just broke my heart. No need to announce to the whole wide world. I even bought a special birthday dress for the day! My family and friends have been showerwd me with love all day, and it was the best. Try not to beat yourself up too much! I have a fear of birthdays. I wasn’t surprised honestly my family had forgotten my birthday many times before and I usually had to remind them the day before and this year was no different. 16 is kind of a big deal, right? It hurt so bad! Edit to add that my dad also tried to make up for it by running out for a card at midnight and waking me up to give it to me, which reminded the sister I shared a room with that she'd forgotten and we both just cried all night, lol. How many birthdays do you have memorized? Yesterday was my birthday. Fast forward 3 My friends and family forgot my birthday and I feel utterly useless and depressed My best friend remembered my birthday, all my other friends If someone forgot your birthday this year and you are wondering what to do or what it means, this post is for you! We shall go over some of the best things to do if your family and friends forgot Today is my birthday and I turned 54. He does a similar thing, I speak to him pretty much every day and he'll say oh I did this for my birthday or oh I'm doing this for my birthday and then I shower him with birthday celebrations. I kinda feel pathetic for feeling bad about it. My birthday wish has always been to be left alone and not make a big deal out of it. Posted by u/unverifiedliquidcat - 12 votes and 16 comments 5 months. I know once you reach 21 people stop I’m 37 and last year both my parents, my brother and his wife, my husbands sister and cousins (who were all close too) all forgot my birthday and I felt so upset the entire day. I barely remember my own birthday because I care 0 about birthdays in general. It's the saddest birthday ever. if i randomly My sisters and my sister in law say happy birthday to me on behalf of their husbands. What really hurt him was that I genuinely forgot and he knows me well enough to know that I forgot his birthday. if i look at a clock and see the time is 6:19, i tell him happy birthday. I’m not asking for a big day. I do this because they’re my favorite people and I want them to feel It’s my birthday today. My birthday expectations are usually pretty low. The roads are fine. i’m someone with an atrocious memory, and i forgot my bf of five years’ birthday last year, just as a result of overwhelming stress and work scheduling, so it definitely /can/ happen. I received three cards. Open menu Open navigation Go to Reddit Home. So my girl (29f) and I (38m) are so disappointed that some of my family forgot her 30th birthday dinner which was their idea in the first place. My mom did ask me if I wanted anything and I try to keep it easy on her cause I know money is tight so I just said maybe a blanket or something. In my family, birthdays are not frequently remembered by anyone but immediate family. It breaks my heart showing up with flowers and a little knick-knack for her and my dad hasn't been home all day and my brother is playing videogames in his room for the next year or two without popping his head out. My family forgot my birthday before and it was a wound on a pile of hurts I had. I didn't even get to cut my cake lol. As long as my family and my boyfriend remember my birthday, I'm happy. My wife (30F) and I (32M) have been married for 6 years, and we have 2 little girls (5 & 2 years old). I can go I’m sorry your family forgot your birthday. Posted by u/rocketfrenchie - 114 votes and 44 comments Get the Reddit app Scan this QR code to download the app now. My birthday was around quarantine, i turned 24. But I am not mad about that what I hate is even my mom prefers them over me. None of my closest people remembered. Since I had expected to be out of state, I made no other plans for my birthday and spent last night alone, burying my feelings under weed, alcohol, and video games. I’ve memorized like three or four birthdays total that isn’t mine or my immediate family. They offered to take her to dinner but never made plans, so I spent time to plan, book it and confirm with everyone. I am so beyond sorry. They are always imposing their one-way method of communication in their social and family life. Up until I was 20 or so, I did nothing about my birthday, because I was used to my mum and family making a fuss without me saying anything. Birthdays are super important to me. 2K likes, 100 comments. After class one of my girlfriends best friends confronted me and told me that last Friday was her birthday and that my girlfriend cried the whole night. I once forgot my own mom's birthday (called her immediately the day after and pretended my phone had been broken to not make her sad but I think she suspected T_T years ago now but still feel absolutely terrible about it), I've forgotten birthday presents in the bus (yes, the bus, on my way to the birthday party) TWO times and the time before last time I TL;DR : My wife forgot my birthday for the 4 consecutive year, and my family has excluded me from family activities like getting gifts on Christmas or ordering food for me when they order. The sounds can heal. Since then, I've adapted by realizing that it can take multiple and direct reminders before people will internalize new information (especially where I'm a newcomer into their family!) as much as it would hurt to have people forget my birthday, i totally recognize that many of us have busy brains and just don’t put the date and the meaning together. i see no reason to put the burden on everyone else in its entirety. I had a hard day at work, and I kept checking my phone to see if they texted me. They can’t plan for something they have no idea about. How selfish and egotistical of me! I hate celebrating my birthday and I used to not care if someone wished me a happy birthday or not, but that's not true anymore. So I have my birthday, and my immediate family's birthday (and we have a big family), and my close friends' birthdays memorized. One from my mum, one from my children, one from my 44 votes, 18 comments. And fuck’em all. She's not perfect but she has everything I need from a partner. My husband got me a flower and we went to Arbys for dinner so I didnt have to cook. My husband tries but we are so broke by my birthday that I just tell him don't worry about it. During this time she has forgotten my birthday twice (dont really remember how my birthday went in 2020 though so im not going to count that one) . Wishing you a happy happy birthday!!!! 🥰🎉🎂🎁🎊 I have a trick so I don't feel bad if someone important to me forget about my birthday. My husband has NEVER remembered or bought I remember my 14th birthday so clearly because it was forgotten by almost everyone. Also, birthdays in our company typically come with a I turned 38 this week. Just tell him. It was to the point where his parents didn't even say 'happy birthday' anymore. Or friendship, family, co-workers, or basic human interaction: we're here to help! Members Online • Akash_nu. what my SO thinks is silly, but i love; is the birthday minute. I thought it was the next day. My GF and I were long distance, now we’re not. Today was my birthday, i live with both parents , and 4 siblings . ) I know it’s crazy busy at the moment with his work but. It made me feel super sad. I can’t stand my birthday. I don't need a present or even a card, but just a 'happy birthday ' message would be enough! I don't like to make a big deal but an acknowledgement from immediate family is not a lot to ask, especially when I see/speak to them regularly. You can remind him and tell him you're hurt WITHOUT BLAME. Should I be mad (which I am)? I will tell her but I feel weird honestly. now, i feel awful because it happened again. Then someone close to me remembered and got a random bouquet of flowers via post and I It was my mom's birthday today and I totally forgot about it. A couple of my brothers forgot about it and booked other stuff at the same time. I am one of those friends that plans and coordinates, but I also have the worst memory for people’s Birthdays. My mum came over in the morning to take my children to school while I went to my full time job and didn’t say anything. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I cut all communication with my family and remote deleted my Nephews IPad that I pay for because my family forgot me on my birthday Thanksgiving Christmas and I don‘t even know why I‘m so sad about this. It’s saddening. And the bigger problem is this isn't the first time I've forgot to wish her, she's very sad rn and isn't talkin to me properly. ADMIN MOD Forgot my girlfriend’s birthday . I forgot my own birthday last year. other people it just is random if it happens to stick in my brain. So was lucky if I got a cake and presents, but other siblings were always given big parties with expensive presents. you will hear happy birthday so many times in your month and before that. So they will have no choice but to greet me. I just don't I turned 40 a few months back and almost my entire family forgot. Thus, most of them I don’t know about other people, obviously, but I’ve had my best friend who’s practically family forget about my birthday. That's it. After age 10 in 1977 they just forgot my birthday like I never existed. She's a good listener, understanding, independent, and really loving. My 4 closest friends called but not my immediate family outside of Mom. To me, I don’t care if someone or everyone forgets my birthday. I was quite disappointed yesterday when I didn't receive any messages for my birthday from his sons and their partners. Happy Birthday! I’m so sorry to hear your friends didn’t remember your Birthday. Get the Reddit app Scan this QR code to download the app now They always forgot my birthday and I was always overlooked for employee appreciation day. Happy happy birthday friend. And I didn’t hear anything from either of my sisters. He was understanding of the fact that I was busy. Here if you ever want someone to listen. My group of closest friends all know that I treat Birthdays like national holidays. My husband and I are only children so the grandparents have only one child to keep track of. I guess I'm too old for birthdays. Some people just suck, and it's not about you, it's about them. I don’t say anything to my husband’s side although I remind him when their birthdays are. There's also the fact that he's made my last two birthdays amazing so I suppose there's some unsaid stuff on his part. The straw that broke the camel's back was on my 38th birthday she couldn't take the ten seconds to call, text, Facebook message, send a card/cake, heck I would had been okay with a carrier pigeon! The only thing that was done was a "Have a nice birthday weekend" that year my birthday was on a Monday. I was so upset about it I refused to let anyone else go through that experience and I marked down every single friends birthday in my calendar with reminders. I have a friend who isn't on facebook and I always feel bad when I forget his birthday. But I'd you are super hurt you need to communicate with him tell he (without blaming him) that you felt hurt because for you birthdays are super important and you want it to be a special day and that your special partner forgot your birthday hurt you. I had the exact same experience on my 16th birthday a few days ago, literally everyone forgot about my birthday except for two people. Yes, this Last year, I invited her to my sweet 16 party out camping in the woods because she moved across the country from me when I was 11 years old. I don’t celebrate my family’s birthdays anymore, I try to agree on a neutral policy so yea I purposefully forget my mom’s birthday. On my birthday a few months ago, my parents asked me if I wanted to order takeout or eat dinner as usual. I forget my own birthday. I'm starting to tear up just thinking about how worthless it makes me feel. StellarSteals 51 43m. Get app Get the Reddit app Log In Log in to Reddit. 51 pm , only several minutes left before my birthday end. I canceld plans so I could spend the day with my family. I would do something unprompted, not sexual. On my birthday I got texts and calls from all of my family except my mom saying happy birthday. But I hoped he would at leat acknowledge that it was my birthday. . And that’s all I’ve ever wanted from my husbands family. Not even my little brother remembered. This has never happened before, and I never really expect much from my birthday, but it honestly did surprise me quite a bit. My birthday was one of those things - I would tell him how it made me feel and he would be *very sorry* and promise to do better. I have never missed a good friends birthday and I'm way past 18 at this point. If however it was a really close friend who forgot, I’d just bring it up jokingly like “guess what today is?”. Yesterday we celebrated with his parents, and about a week ago I bought a Lego as an early surprise and then we had dinner together. I was shocked Normally I don’t forget stuff like this. My family forgot about my 16th and 17th birthday. It's very simple. Yesterday was really difficult without my mom here. I have a wonderful wife, great friends, and other kindhearted members of my family who wished me well. What’s worse I completely forgot my father’s Birthday. I bought myself a birthday cupcake and ate it. I know it hurts but see it as an invaluable gift because this gift will keep on giving. My girlfriend forgot my birthday this year because our time zones were different the last time I had one (she thought it was one day later, basically) When she realized she slipped up, she made me feel really cared for and made it up to me. I've just spent my 44th birthday with my wife & my family that I married into. I turned 29 this year, and growing up, we never really made a big deal about birthday's, but at the very least we congratulate each other. Now I feel very much guilty about being a bad son. I'm convinced that the only reason this happened is because I'm notoriously bad at remembering birthdays. Dipping to the problem, I forgot her birthday completely, and just remembered it the day after. Her birthday was the week before. Forgetting birthdays is normal I forgot my father's birthday he's forgotten mine and my sisters it happens. I live at home still with my dad. College I made plans but was told by my family we were celebrating so I canceled going out and the celebration was me scrubbing the house down and being told I should be thankful. I still don't like my birthday but if I have a bunch of people wishing me happy bday and someone close to me doesn't, I do feel hurt. People forget. Everyone looked at me She didn't remember my birthday but she did remember both of my cousins birthdays last month. But they immediately apologized when they realized, and tried to make it up to me. 16 birthday didn't see parents but had my big sister who went and pawned her leather jacket and got me pizza and cake. My 30th was ruined by my siblings attitude and now coming up 40 I still feel like I don't matter to my family. I cried because in my family everyone throws big parties to celebrate and last year when I decided to do the same only two people came and this year everyone forgot. I always hated my birthday being on valintines day, I was always alone for it, no one would remember as they were all busy with valintines day stuff and in geneal. vshp cwtduw mqwa ojfox oxwcwe gzkedb gdrskz ywuffhsw geqh irrwwtv